Sometimes, the burden of life, and of our own heavy emotions makes us want to push people away. Pushing them away ensures that they won’t be able to judge us for what we are going through.
It also ensures that they won’t be able to judge us in our vulnerable act of feeling.
Other times, it’s not even our own emotions that make us want to push people away.
It’s simply a pattern of behaviour that we picked up from our mother or father. An extremely damaging behaviour, if you will.
At the heart of our desire to push people away is a fear of intimacy.
The difference between pushing people away and cutting people off
I want to distinguish between pushing people away and cutting people off.
I know they can go hand-in-hand, but in my view, the core reasons as to why we do these two things is very different.
When you cut someone off, as long as you’re not being an ass, it means…